To the rescue

When enough is enough, let it be so, and start climbing out of that muddy hole you feel you are stuck in. Sometimes all you need to do is stop and look, and just address the problem, when you do this, the answer will surely be there - we know more than what we think. What keeps us from feeling that we know, are all the walls we put up, all the facades. It distances us from honesty. Honesty defining so much more than just being sincere. Honesty is about looking inward, as deep as you possibly can, and then use the knowledge that you find there, directing it and allowing it to reach the surface of your being into this world. It might sound exaggerated, but believe me, this way of thinking allows one to be simple - more simple than you might think..

Sometimes the most complicated appearing things, are really the simplest ones. 

As always, things are harder to understand from the outside perspective. But looking through the perspective of the actual source of the matter, and it's quite simple. Remember that other people's influences on you are also part of that outside perspective. That's seemingly why it can be difficult to understand even yourself sometimes, because you relate to those influences. It's a part of life, it's a part of living to be not only yourself, it's natural and how this world works, regardless of what we would prefer. However.. As to all things with layers, there is always a core, and as to all things in general, there is always a source. There is a remarkable difference between all these places. From where you think you're standing, to where you actually are standing. From where you feel you have been, to where you know you are going. The place you can always find for sure, is your core. Not the humanoid ever changing ever growing organism's core (which would only be a part of it), but your actual being's core.